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August 3, 2022

What to Expect During a Couples Boudoir Photo Shoot

Couples boudoir photography is a great way to capture the intimate connection between you and your partner. Whether you’re celebrating a special occasion or hoping to document your love in a unique way, these shoots are always memorable.

If you’re considering scheduling a session with your partner, you’re probably wondering what to expect. What happens during a couples boudoir shoot? Will it be awkward? Will my partner feel uncomfortable?

First and foremost, I promise you there’s nothing to worry about. Couples boudoir photoshoots are always a ton of fun, and your photographer will be there to guide you through every step of this one-of-a-kind experience. 

I understand that it can be a little daunting to be so intimate in front of someone else, but trust me, it will be worth it in the end.

Ready to learn more about what happens during a couples boudoir shoot? I’ve got the inside scoop on what you can expect when you work with me. 

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Are Couples Boudoir Sessions a Thing?

I often get asked if couples boudoir sessions are really a thing. The answer is a resounding YES! 

One look at my gallery, and you’ll see why couples boudoir is more than just a thing — it’s a thing that a LOT of couples are doing.


Well, why not? Couples boudoir is an exciting and sensual way to capture the love between two people. 

Here are a few of the reasons couples have come to me for their boudoir photo shoot:

  • To celebrate an anniversary
  • As a fun date night out
  • To spice things up in their relationship
  • To honor a relationship milestone
  • Because they feel sexy
  • They’ve always wanted to try it; or
  • No particular reason at all

Whatever your reason, just know that you’re not alone in wanting to do a couples boudoir shoot! I’ve photographed plenty of couples over the years, and it only seems to be growing in popularity.

So, what happens during a couples boudoir shoot? Keep reading and I’ll fill you in on all the details.

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What Happens During a Couples Boudoir Shoot: A Step-By-Step Guide

From start to finish, here’s how most couples boudoir experiences will unfold:

Look for Couples Boudoir Photographers

First things first, you’ll want to look for boudoir photographers in your area. Once you’ve found a few that you’re interested in, look at their portfolios and get a feel for their style. 

Every photographer will have their own unique approach to couples boudoir, so take your time looking for someone whose work resonates with you.

Book a Consultation

After you’ve found a photographer you love, the next step is to book a consultation. This is an opportunity for you and your partner to meet or speak with your photographer and ask them any questions you may have.

It’s also a great time to get to know each other and ensure you’ll be comfortable working together.

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Discuss Your Plans With Your Photographer

During your consultation, you’ll have a chance to discuss your plans and expectations for the photoshoot with your photographer. 

What type of vibe are you hoping for? What kind of photos are you hoping to walk away with? Are you envisioning something more sensual or playful?

Your photographer wants to ensure that your couples boudoir experience is everything you’ve ever dreamed of, so it’s important to communicate your expectations upfront. No question is too silly, and no detail is too small, so don’t be afraid to speak up!

Prepare For Your Photo Shoot

After you’ve booked your couples boudoir session and discussed your plans with your photographer, it’s time to start preparing for the big day. 

Your photographer will likely send you a list of what to bring and how to prepare, but in general, you’ll want to ensure you’re well-rested and hydrated.

Take care of any grooming tasks you may need to do in advance, and avoid wearing anything tight that may leave marks on your skin. You’ll also want to eat a light meal beforehand so you’re not feeling too full during the shoot but still have plenty of energy to move around.

Lastly, don’t forget to bring any outfits you may want to use during your couples boudoir session.

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The Day of the Shoot

Now, it’s finally time for your couples boudoir photo shoot! On the day of the shoot, you’ll want to arrive feeling refreshed and relaxed. I recommend taking a long shower beforehand and maybe even indulging in some self-care, like getting your nails done or treating yourself to a new outfit.

When you arrive at the location, your photographer will greet you and help you get settled in. If this is your first time doing couples boudoir, feeling a little nervous is normal. Take a few deep breaths, remember that you’re in good hands, and your partner is right there with you.

Depending on your photographer, you may be in for the pampering of a lifetime! In my New York studio, couples boudoir photoshoots always include hair and makeup. This is an opportunity to unwind and let someone else take care of you for a change.

Once hair and makeup are complete, it will be time to start shooting. Your photographer should have vast experience in creating sensual poses for you and your partner. 

The goal is for your photographer to capture genuine moments of connection and chemistry, so just relax and let things flow naturally.

Your session is a safe space for you and your partner, so follow your photographer’s guidance and enjoy the experience. Laugh together, get lost in each other’s eyes, and share a few stolen kisses. Just have fun!

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4 Tips For Your Couples Boudoir Photo Shoot

If you’re still feeling a little nervous about your session, here are a few tips to help you enjoy your experience:

  1. Talk to your partner about what you’re comfortable with before the shoot. This will ensure that everyone is on the same page and that no one feels uncomfortable during the session.
  2. Remember that your photographer is a professional. They’ve seen it all before and they are not there to judge you. So, you can just relax and enjoy this time with your partner.
  3. Focus on your partner. If you start to feel self-conscious, just look into your partner’s eyes and forget about everyone else.
  4. Don’t take things too seriously! The experience is supposed to be fun, so just let loose and enjoy yourself. Photos of the two of you laughing and smiling are always some of the most beautiful and intimate.
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Couples Boudoir Photography FAQ

How Can I Convince My Shy Partner To Do a Boudoir Shoot?

Couples boudoir is not for everyone, and unfortunately, if one party is not feeling comfortable this can really come through in the photos.

Before booking a consultation or session, or “surprising” your partner with a boudoir shoot, talk to them about the idea and get a sense of how they feel about it.

You can discuss everything from outfits, poses, and cost; hopefully, your partner will come to the idea. But, at the end of the day, if one party is not interested, the shoot isn’t likely to turn out the way you’d hoped.

Do We Have To Get Naked?

Nudity is not a necessity. Boudoir photography can include anything from silk pajamas to lingerie — or totally nude if you’re comfortable.

Boudoir photography is not meant to be pornographic or blatantly sexual. Pictures can be playful, fun, and sensual — it’s totally up to you!

Remember, you will have a consultation with your photographer in advance of your shoot. This is when you should discuss your clothing (or lack thereof) preferences and what you’re comfortable with at the shoot.

What Should a Guy Wear for Boudoir?

Let’s face it, most lingerie is designed for women, and that usually means boudoir photography tends to be woman-centric, but it doesn’t have to be.

If your guy is up for it, you can definitely buy some fun, sexy, and even kinky garments for him to wear during the shoot. Or you can choose to keep it simple.

Fitted t-shirts, boxers or boxer briefs, jeans, a dress shirt and tie, and bare-chested, of course, will all make for excellent photos.

Should We Bring Props to Our Shoot?

This is totally up to you. It’s your shoot, so anything that speaks to you as a couple is perfectly acceptable. 

You may opt for blindfolds or masks or even restraints, such as handcuffs or scarves. 

Props are a personal choice, so only bring along items you think will add to the desired outcome of your photo shoot.

Will You Take Any Solo Photos During Our Session?

Your session can absolutely include solo poses. Some warmup poses are a great way to get comfortable with the camera before getting into more intimate poses with your partner. 

As we mentioned earlier, because these shoots tend to focus more on the woman, many shoots begin with some sexy, traditional boudoir shots of the woman. 

However, it’s totally up to you! You may both want a couple of solo poses — or none at all. Let your wishes be known in the consultation so that the photographer is prepared to wow you with everything you want out of your shoot.

Ready to Book Your Couples Boudoir Photo Shoot?

I hope this has given you a better idea of what happens during a couples boudoir shoot. Just remember to relax, be yourself, and have fun! If you do, I promise you’ll walk away with some beautiful, intimate photos that you’ll cherish for years to come.

Visit my blog for more boudoir tips and advice or book a consultation with me if you’re ready to discuss your own couples boudoir shoot in my New York boudoir studio.

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